THE Event - called - Marriage

Wanted to write a Blog, Did not know if I could, did not know if my writing skills were good enough, but made up the courage to write one.... So here it goes!! My 1st Blog....

Marriage AKA biggest gamble, and when you are a winner in the gamble you land up writing a blog like this.
I definitely feel great to call myself a winner in this gamble (am also hoping my husband thinks the same way!! ;).... ) I used to always feel that love marriages are the key for a successful pairing and that way the dice is in your hand, this was of course my teen and early 20's thoughts, but, as time progressed, i felt arranged marriages are not so bad, so what if the dice is in the hands of your parents, they of course make an honest attempt to find the right compatible person for you.... and rightly in my case, my parents found 'Ajith' for me.

Whats interesting in this entire event is the roller coaster ride that our minds takes thinking about marriage, sometimes fear, some times anxiety, sometimes sadness and most of the times sheer excitement and happiness. The Aura is so energizing, every one in the family is lost lost in self grooming and preparing for the wedding. Although the event lasts for 3 days, and in my case it went on for 4, it appears like everything happened in split-seconds, and to look back at it now, it seems like a dream that you would want to re-live over and over again..... how I wish!!

To my luck, I have also had a few good (married) friends, who gave me very simple advices, which then did not mean much but words, but now I realise it was out of experience that it was told to me. Thank you all

The day before my wedding, I was to stay back at the wedding hall with my parents, it was a little weird though, as it had been ages since my parents made me sleep in between them :). We were all very tired, all the 3 of us were craving for sleep, but we couldn't, It was then that I actually realised that I would be getting married, My father kept his eyes locked to the fan on the ceiling with a silent tear dropping from his eye and since my mom was expressive, I could hear her cry, yet silent, and there I was in the middle of them.... WOW, it still moistens my eye to think of that night. Guess it was the moment of truth for all the 3 of us as reality had finally stuck us amidst all the hush and rush of wedding preparations, and guess what it all led to... silent parents and a cry baby, both of them held my hand and gave me the usual advice to be a good girl etc etc, they kept patting my head all night and finally put me to sleep. Recollecting all this I can now imagine how my childhood must have been.....

Woke up the next morning and what can you expect, a puffy face, all thanks to less sleep and overflowing emotions, not just for me, but for my folks too. The events happened one after the other and before I could wake up completely, I was dressed in a beautiful sari (that was picked by mom) and my maternal uncles had lift me up and got me to stand in front of the man I was to marry. I couldn't see him as there was a cloth that separated us, but I am sure he managed to see me, what better way of simple cheating can you expect from a 6 footer. There I stood with my head down, waiting anxiously to see how he looked in his traditional attire, with jirige and bella in my hand, By my side I could see my relatives cheering for me to put whats in my hand on Ajiths head before he does, and on the other side stood my parents with a partial hangover of last nights emotions and a hint of a sparkling smile. The time arrived and the 6 footer cheater managed to put his hand contents on my head before me. As per the rituals, whoever puts it first would dominate on the partner for the rest of his/her life, Thanks to Ajiths cheating efforts, the ritual reversed in my favor!! Ajiths parents were few of the smiling faces that still is a captured image on my mind, which depicted nothing but a warm welcome to a daughter-in-law, whom they treated no less then a daughter.
The rituals followed one after the other, and then came the moment where in the official 'Tali' tying procedure, Ajith amidst all the crowd came close to my ear and whispered 'I love you' and I looked him in the eye and he tied the knot, This in one moment i can never forget and to my luck that moment was captured on a photo. A 'Kodak moment' to say!!

From then on Ajith has been by me and he has stood up to all the promises he made during he wedding. He is no less then a parent when it comes to disciplining me or a friend when you need a shoulder to cry on. He is Everything that I ever wanted

Thank you Mom and Dad and Atte and Mava for giving me 'Ajith', It has been close to 2yrs of marital bliss

Marriage as made fun by many married people is not as bad as it seems, Everyone would have for sure experienced all that I mentioned above but it is nice when it is expressed. If not expressed, atleast the simple smile that your face gets when you remember such precious moments..... try it in front of the mirror and see your face glow and do write back to me and let me know how it feels!!